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Today I woke so thankful for my life, my opportunities and all that I have, and then I was reminded that not everyone’s morning is filled with such high vibrations. So many unknown battles go on in other people’s lives; how much time do we really spend considering the lives of others and the struggles people battle each and everyday. It’s easy sometimes to just glide through life not noticing the sad world around us. It makes me so sad when I hear about people who are struggling to escape the battles within; fighting a battle they currently can’t see a way out of; consumed by the pain of their lives and now victims of their circumstances. Everyone deserves to have happiness but sadly all of our life experiences differ and some people find it difficult to find the strength to keep fighting the battle.

I have adopted the habit of expressing gratitude daily for what I have in my life, material things, the life i’m able to lead, the resilience I’ve built up and the increasing network of supportive loving people I have around me. I know that’s not everyone’s story and however dark it may seem right now there is light at the end of every tunnel. If you become the source of light you will never have to walk in the darkness, when you refuse to be a victim you will be the victor. Circumstances will come to test your will power and I believe you can fight and you can overcome. We fall many times before elevating, we may become convinced that we will never be able to get back up; worried that life has beaten us down for last time and that this is a load now to heavy to bear. Although giving up at this point might seem like the easy option I urge you to dig deep, and to search for that piece of happiness buried within.

I will happily title myself as a positivity enthusiast, and I work daily to elevate my thinking. I seriously believe your mindset is the key to opening the padlock of your life, I know it is! Our minds are powerful beyond measure. We have to guard our minds like we guard our hearts, we must learn to harness the power to repel negativity so that we can enjoy a full and fulfilling life. Everyone experiences battles on the road of life, some can see the horizon coming into view and others can only see what has consumed them. They may not see a way out, we may have to create one for them. Never stop praying for that lost person, their storm must come to an end too.

This post may seem a little bit disorganized but I hope you will continue to read on, so that you can truly understand the message i’m trying to convey. I hope you will have a compassionate state of mind by the end, and as I share I hope your perspective may be shifted.

I’m from London and on average I see homeless people on a weekly basis, and I think it’s crazy that in this day and age people are still forced to live such a life. This is shocking but it’s the reality of the society we are plonked into. When I was younger I used to get irritated, pissed off in fact when people on the street would beg me for money. But as an adult I realized that I had no right to judge those people regardless of how they had ended up in that situation, who was I to judge anyone as if I was perfect and high all mighty; I had to check myself. I’m into motivational, inspiring, empowering content as you might have already realized, I love the uplift I get from tapping into inspiring things; it really puts me in a good place. The other day I was listening to one of my favourite motivational content creators, I literally can’t get enough of her content both new and old; she keeps it real, shout out to Shanel Cooper-Sykes (recently married and now know as Shanel Imonitie). I am literally calling it into existence that I will one day meet her #manifestingShanel. Any way, I was listening to one of her classes and she was talking about gratitude being the right attitude and the give away a dollar challenge, it made me think that I am more privileged that I sometimes realize. I wake in the morning in a house with my creature comforts, self indulgent pleasures and the basic necessities and some luxury bits and bobs thrown in. However there are people out there with literally nothing but the clothes on their back, memories and pain. As I continued to listen to Shanel’s words she shared the importance of being grateful for what you already have and challenged people to do a random act of kindness and give away a dollar a day; literally leave it somewhere for someone to find and express gratitude for all that you have. I reflected on the attitudes I’ve seen shown towards the less fortunate recently, and I remembered my guilty teenage self once upon a time judging homeless people.I used to think they only wanted money for drink and drugs and didn’t recognize the human being with real needs, in need of help from somebody. Thankfully in my early 20’s I learnt not to judge people on face value, and I honestly am thankful for opening up my mind to the realities of others, to read between the line and to understand that there are people out there that just need help, a glimmer of hope.

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A few months ago I was approached by a homeless man near where I work, I was with an associate. The man asked me for some change, all I had was 50p, a packet of sherbet lemons and a can drink that id literally been waiting to open all day, mouth literally watering. The man asked for money but I didn’t have much, so I gave him the 50p, the drink and the sherbet lemons. The smile I got back was crazy, I mean I could literally see all of his teeth in the back of his head. I really didn’t feel like i’d done anything that great to be honest, a couple of sweets and a drink. The person I was with for some reason was furious, she went into one telling me I was an idiot and asked me why I was helping a tramp druggy on the street. I was shocked by the way she was reacting, she was acting as if i’d handed over the pin number of my current account. I couldn’t see where she was coming from, I ended the conversation quickly and said I had to go. Later that day I was heading to the station on my way home and I saw the same man, he called me over, he thanked me for what i’d given him earlier and started telling me a bit about himself. What he said to me has stuck with me ever since, he told me he remembered sherbet lemons from the good days. They were something he used to eat back in the day but since becoming homeless he couldn’t often get his hands on a packet. He went on to say that he was once married but had split from his wife due to personal reasons he didn’t go into. He said he was made redundant shortly after and was in a huge amount of debt, he also said he suffered from really bad depression and had just hit rock bottom, he had been living on the streets for 4 years. He then told me that he didn’t see an escape but wasn’t at the point of ending it all, just yet, but he had considered it. I honestly felt like crying, I felt so sorry for him and so angry the girl earlier had acted like that. We continued to talk and he told me more about the struggles he had gone through and the repossession of his home. His friends and family had literally turned there back on him and he felt like there was no point anymore but the kindness of strangers was what kept him holding onto that little bit of hope, that tiny thread of belief that one day his situation would change. He left me with these words that I have to share with you all “I am a person, although I seem like a mere beggar, I am a person, I bleed the same, I feel the cold at a volume greater than anyone with a home, talking and having someone treat me like a person is more valuable than any money. Please always remember that when you see someone on the streets, we didn’t always choose this life, sometimes shit happens and we feel trapped. Please keep me in your thoughts and thank you for giving me a piece of your time and treating me like a person”. After this encounter I literally couldn’t stop crying, instead of getting on the train at my usual stop I walked to the next station in order to gather my thoughts and sort myself out. His story touched me, the fact that despite it all there was still a thread of hope he held onto, I really do hope he finds his piece of happiness again.

The point i’m trying to make with this post is don’t look at the outward, don’t judge others by their appearance because you have absolutely no idea how people have ended up in the situations there in. Also I’m trying to get across to that you need to be grateful for whatever you have however big or small you think it is, your living good by another persons standards believe me. Gratitude is the best attitude, it’s not going to kill you to give that homeless person some money when they ask for it. If you feel uncomfortable doing that, why not get them something to eat or drink. Keep in mind the massive impact your small gesture might have on that persons life.
Challenges happen to us all, we are sometimes apart of situations we wish we weren’t but we have to try to keep our minds on the up and not allow things to burden us. No matter how traumatic your situation, or how horrendous the past may be, or the painful memories that feel like they won’t fade, you will overcome, you can break free from the chains but it all starts with you. Some of us might need that helping hand to get started and let’s not forget that; some of us need those kind words that spark us to continue the fight. Next time you see someone down on their luck, acknowledge them as a person, show them some kindness and remember that you don’t know the battles they fight every day. Don’t judge people because of what you think they are.

Radiating positive vibes your way

Until next time

Love Sade x

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Clear out, don’t clean up

Tis the season to clear out the toxins from your life, both mind, body and soul. If you follow me on Instagram you will know that last week I made the decisions to change my number; I chose to sever a few ties that had been hanging around for a while. For some of you changing your number will probably seem like a small insignificant thing, but for me changing my number was more spiritual. It provided me with the opportunity to actively decide who will and will not have a place in my life. I can now clearly separate work/business from my personal life and take some ownership over the connections I have with people. The process of changing my number was quick and so freeing, I felt like a butterfly stretching her wings. Since I’ve changed my number I feel so light and free from so much baggage I hadn’t even realised was trailing along behind me. I cut cords and I feel amazing, I have put a full stop to people being able to creep back into my life and guess what “I ain’t sorry”.

Now to be honest cutting ties and clearing out are nothing new for me, I do this regularly throughout the year.  There is no point holding onto things or people that are sucking the happiness out of you or taking up valuable space. I’m sure there have been people in your life or experiences that you’ve had that just drain you of your energy. I’ve had my fair share of energy vampires trying to steal my joy and have had to cut ties for my own sake. Your personal wellbeing is so important to look after, and you have to be unapologetic when it comes to looking after yourself.

I got to a point in my life 3 to 4 years ago where I’d just had enough of flaky people, people that had nothing but negative vibes and people who I term as ‘users’. I was fed up and frankly sick and tired of people who were friends on paper but in reality were just frauds. I’ve been part of the drop me out season for a while (cut that dead weight). Toxic clear outs for me are like the purge of negativity and opening of space for positivity.

My advice is to be selective with your circles of people connected to you; I have differing circles for a number of reasons. My circles are made up of family; relatives; friends; associates; colleagues; business contacts and mentors. You will have noticed family and relatives sit in two different circles but I’ll explain that in another post soon. My number of actual friends has reduced over the years but the quality has risen tenfold. You have the option to choose who has significance in your life and what things influence you. So be mindful of whom and what you let into your physical and mental space, and remember to operate from a place of peace and love when connecting with others. They say ‘like attracts like’ and I strongly believe that to be true.

It’s not always easy to let them go

I have experienced people whose energy was totally off, everything that came from their mouths was full of hate or dread; their negativity was like a dark cloud, raining on everything good. These people forever discussed how much they hated themselves, bitched about others and had nothing nice to say about anyone. So I made up my mind that they had to go. Cutting people off is easier said than done sometimes and it can have challenges as I found out. I thought I could simply just disappear from their lives and that would be it. Unfortunately, cutting some people off would be one of the biggest hurdles I manged to overcome. I deleted them from social media, blocked them, but somehow they manged to pop back into my life. Vengeful at the fact I had left with no explanation, they set about trying to literally destroy me. But my energy doesn’t align with hateful energy and by the grace of the Most High I made it through unshaven. It’s funny how much you learn about a people when you try to cut ties, I realised how much they actually hated me and it was sad but necessary for me to discover this. These people literally formed a vigilantly group, cooked up some interesting lies and tried there hardest to attack me from every angle. When people try to destroy you with lies they won’t win. After the attack came and went the best part was the huge release I experienced which has made way for more like-minded people to enter my life. I hadn’t even realised how much energy these people had been scavenging from me.

I am able to say that the people I have in my life now are absolutely amazing, both new and old. I love you all so much and thank you for riding along with me on my journey of life. We may not see or speak to each other all the time, but we go together like ying and yang and our bond is unbreakable. If you have people in your life who are toxic it’s time to let them go. Your wellbeing is important and it’s time to cut off their energy supply. When negative people begin to leave your life you will feel a new found sense of peace and tranquility.

Quality is far more important than quantity when it comes to people and things in our lives. There is no point having a squad full of weak, unmotivated negative links. Wouldn’t you rather have a select few people you can truly call your power house? People who are like minded and uplift you? People who support you and can constructively give you critique? Don’t you want people who are down for you 100% like family? And experiences that make you beam with joy?

If you said yes to any of what I said above you know what you need to do. Until next time I am radiating peace and love your way

With Love from Sade xx

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Through the stormI have been caught up in a storm for the last two months, my entire mood has been completely off. People close to me have noticed a funky little attitude and me just not being my happy go lucky, positive self. I have lacked motivation; my confidence spiraled to an all-time zero; my consistency was nothing short of inconsistent; I stopped doing the things I love and retreated into a shell I temporarily created for myself. I felt absolutely crap but was eventually able to remind myself that I’m only human and it’s ok to not be ok 24/7.

Temporary Storm

The temporary storm started around the end of July and progressed through to October.  I didn’t know back then but one now seemingly small event would kick me in the backside and remind me that I still have work to do on myself. In July I applied for a new role; let me not even down play it, it was the next step in my career and the opportunity to impact lives on a bigger scale. I was in such high spirits at the prospect of starting a new exciting step in my career, but unfortunately it didn’t quite go to plan and I quickly learned that I don’t deal with disappointment very well.

I put all my energy into securing the new role, I literally worked on manifesting it, I envisioned it, I spoke positively about it, the whole shebang. Worst yet, out of 50 hopeful candidates I managed to make it to the final two, I smashed stage one of the interview and was certain that the role was already mine. I walked into stage two of the interview a few days later and aced it in my opinion, only to receive the rejection letter a few days later saying “unfortunately we are unable to offer you the post at this time”. Then another sting came when I asked for feedback on my interview (I highly recommend you do this), I got commended on how well I had done, so I’m sure you can understand my frustration when I had to roll up to my old job the next day. I was devastated, I really did believe that role was mine, and I couldn’t stop crying for weeks; I was crushed. I rarely cry to be honest, but the tears back then were flowing like a Niagara Falls, I was nothing short of a mess. Feeling sorry for myself became a thing and I just felt so disappointed in myself. I’m usually the one to say ‘dust yourself off and get back to the search’, however I completely forgot all of that and allowed the grey clouds to take over.

My positive flow of energy started to diminish and I allowed that one set back to knock me off course, temporarily defeated I can now say I was definitely caught up in my feelings. I stopped doing my daily routine of waking up and immersing my mind with positive thoughts. I stopped writing in my journal; I stopped adding entries to my gratitude log; I started watching stupid shows on television and decided I’d be down in the dumps because that’s what I wanted to do and no one could tell me anytime. Slowly, inconsistency flooded in, I replied to emails as and when I could be bothered; I cancelled appointments; declined invitations; stopped attending functions and as I said got caught up in the storm of disappointment. Some of you might be thinking how dramatic but truth is I’m only human and shit get us down sometimes. Looking back on the last few months, I know it was a necessary process for me to grow through. I have learned even more about myself in the last few months and am now able to fine tune myself a little bit more.

 

Realigned flow of energy

I navigated my way out of the storm by reinstating all the things I used to do on a daily basis to uplift myself. Slowly but surely I have realigned my positive flow of energy and am feeling good again. I have dusted off my gratitude log; written in my journal daily; plastered positive messages to myself on my mirror every morning; switched off my television and tuned back into the motivational audios I love and step by step I have pieced myself back together again;  even stronger this time. The last step I took which I think was a key part of my energy shift was writing a letter of forgiveness to myself. I forgave myself for the temporary grey period in my life and forgave myself for letting a set back throw me off.

After making it through the storm of the grayest months I’ve experienced for a long time, I can proudly say I made it through. I am continuing my journey of seeking out new amazing opportunities and am faithful that the right ones will be navigated in my direction soon enough.

There’s a lesson to learn in every chapter of your life, some chapters are smooth sailing and other will be filled with torrential rain. I’m glad for the storm, because without the storm I wouldn’t have made it through. We all will experience the ‘lower’ points in our lives, seemingly small events can sometimes catapult our energy into an odd place but through it all we will make it through the storm. Some storms may last longer but rest assured no storm lasts forever and a blissful day is guaranteed on the other side.

And so I will leave it there…..

“growth without learning is not growth at all, but growth through challenges is a learning experience in it’s self”- Sade Stephens  (my own quote)

If you too are experiencing a storm in your life; knocked down by life’s events or just feeling a little bit crap, the storm will be over soon. Fill up your cup with positive energy, enjoy the things you love and tick this stage off as a lesson learned. If you ever want a little uplift, shoulder to cry on or listening ear of encouragement please don’t hesitate to connect with me !!

With love Sade x

 

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Hello Kings and Queens, I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted on my blog; a few weeks to be exact. But, I’m back. I’ve been away getting my priorities straight and living on purpose. Apologies for not getting a blog post up on Stay Joyful, however  I have been blogging for an amazing blogging community and I am loving the experience so far. I will reveal some more about that soon, if you have social media I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. Follow me on Twitter and Instagram @stayjoyful_uk to stay in the loop and interact with me; I love connecting with new people as many of you will already know, so head on over and lets interact.

I digressed, apologies for that. Right back into this post...

I  have been working my cotton socks off on a different kind of level, my toes have been dipped into various waters. The past few weeks I have stepped further out of my comfort zone and banged on the door of opportunity demanding to be let in. I have taken time to reflect and prioritize my workload, life and pull the reigns in a bit in order to truly maintain my inner peace. I must say it is important to get things into perspective and sometimes that means a small interlude.

Trust me, these past few weeks have been challenging, I’ve felt drained but I have overcome and I’m blessed. I knew challenges would arise as I grow and change, I was not necessarily prepared for all of the knocks and bumps; but I’m not afraid to persevere and guess what, I’m here.

Today marks the 1st June 2016, we are officially at the half way mark of this year. Firstly I need to thank the most high for blessing me with life. I am truly blessed and thankful for the opportunity to wake up in the morning, to breathe and to live my life on purpose. The first half of this year has been amazing. I threw my comfort zone out of the window and have been manifesting miracles. I know the next 6 months of the year are going to be absolutely phenomenal, I am so excited to experience what life has in store.

Continue manifesting

I explained in my first post of this year “I don’t set new years resolutions as I feel they add limits to your growth.”  Instead I manifest new experiences. At this point in the year I think it’s fitting to recharge your manifesting abilities and check in on how far you’ve come so far. Take a look at the goals you set back at the start of the year, tick off the ones you have achieved. If you haven’t achieved anything yet, if you feel like the first 6 months have been a total flop please don’t get disheartened. Your blessings are on there way, keep pushing, put in the work and your miracles will manifest at the right time for you.

 

My mid-point ‘I will’ declarations:

  • I will get stuck into writing my book and grow as a budding author
  • I will connect with an amazing King and my husband will be revealed. I believe in the power of calling things into existence, so here goes I’m putting it out there
  • I will connect with even more amazing people over the next few months and truly grow a powerful, positive network of phenomenally EPIC people.
  • I will be turning things up a notch in terms of continuing to create my reality and living life to its fullest. I will be turning 28 believe it or not roll on July woop, woop; although my baby face will continue to keep me looking like a teen. I used to hate being told I look young, but I’m actually loving it now and embracing my youthful looks (continuing to pour coconut oil all over my life).
  • I will start a new journey in my career and step into a new amazing phase of pastoral care. My work will have a positive impact on the young people I work with and I will be able to make a positive change
  • I will be open and receive amazing new opportunities
  • I will overcome challenges and inspire others to grow through the tricky times

Those are just a few of my mid-point I will declarations. There are many more things that I declare I will bring into my reality, I strongly believe in getting things down onto paper. If you haven’t yet created a vision board, a list of goals, an action plan; do that today. Get your goals down and action your steps. Keep the most high at the heart of all you do, radiate on a positive frequency and rock it.

I’m excited and I hope your excited too. Right let’s do this, let’s manifest miracles and make the next half of the year even more EPIC that the first half. I wish you all even more new experience, don’t allow your failings to define you; instead trust the process. You are absolutely amazing, you deserve to have the best, put in the effort.

 

The time is now, lets get to work.

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